Years ago I posted an essay on this blog entitled "That's not I mean when I say 'God,'" in which I vented some frustration because belief in God came in so many different forms, some of which didn't seem like theism at all to me.
I'm not frustrated about it anymore. I'm come to appreciate much more the slack which is routinely cut me by others, and I am much more glad to cut others slack, when it comes to religious beliefs. Who am I to tell other people what's what about such things? This represents a great change for me.
Some theists believe God is a man, or that God is male. Others think God is female, and still others think that the concept of gender does not apply to God. Some believe that God is a conscious, omnipotent being who created everything, knows and sees everything and cares about every living creature. Others think that God is an idea, which might sound to some of us atheists as if they are atheists, but no, they call themselves theists or Christians or Muslims or Buddhists or what have you, and when they talk about God, often they sound very much like the ones who think that God made everything and is a man with along white beard who sits on a throne.
It would be
nice if there were some sort of general agreement about what people
mean when they say "God," but there isn't. Not even close. This of
course makes everything very frustratingly murky and inconsistent to some of us when
we try to have some sort of rational debate with theists about God. But
it's been this way for somewhere between 500 and 3,000 years, or longer
(we don't know how long monotheism has existed). So perhaps -- and I do
mean perhaps! I'm not trying to tell you or anyone else how to go about
things -- perhaps the first thing someone should do, if they want to
talk to a theist about God, is to have them explain what they mean when
they say "God." and sit comfy, cause it might take a while, and if they are
able to explain it to you at all
I'm not saying that this will be enough to permit a nice logical
conversation -- imagine! Theism conflicting with rational discourse! --
and I'm certainly not encouraging anyone to debate theism with anyone.